The Joyful Solo Journey
There is a specific kind of excitement that hums through the air when you step off a plane or out of a car in a new place, entirely on your own. For many women, the idea of solo travel can feel like a daunting "someday" goal, yet those who have crossed that threshold often return with the same secret: it is the best gift you can give yourself.
Solo travel isn’t just about the sights you see; it’s about the person you become while you’re seeing them.
The Luxury of Aloneness
When you travel with others, every day is a series of compromises. Where to eat, when to wake up, and how to spend the day are all group decisions.
When you travel solo, you are the boss of your day! If you want to spend four hours photographing the way the light hits a flower, you can. If you decide at noon that you’d rather scrap your itinerary and spend the afternoon day drinking at a dive bar, there is no one to negotiate with. This autonomy is more than just "doing what you want”, it’s a rare opportunity to hear your own voice without the static of someone else’s expectations.
One such time was driving the Florida Keys. Along parts of US Route1 you almost come in contact with the water. It has always fascinated me. On my solo trip I pulled off the highway, probably not 25 feet from the road, and sat with my feet in the water with the cars zooming by behind me. Had my husband been driving, that wouldn’t have happened. LOL.
A Different Kind of Connection
One of the great paradoxes of solo travel is that you are rarely actually alone. A woman traveling solo is often seen as more approachable than a couple or a large group. You’ll find yourself striking up conversations with bartenders, fellow travelers at a café, or locals who are eager to share a hidden gem of their city. These spontaneous, brief connections often provide the most vibrant memories of the trip.
Rediscovering Wonder
There is a unique stillness that comes with solo exploration. Without the need to fill the silence with conversation, your surroundings stand out. You notice things you might not have otherwise.
Tips for the First-Timer
If you’re ready to take the plunge, start where you feel most comfortable:
The "Dry Run": Take yourself out for a solo dinner or a weekend trip to a nearby town to get used to your own company in a public setting.
I had a friend that I talked into trying this first. She hated it! Left a day early to get back home. Just think if she had taken a big trip first!
Safety First, Not Fear First: Research your destination, keep your family updated on your itinerary, and stay in well-reviewed areas. Awareness is your best tool.
I admit in the beginning this was my biggest concern. But after many solo flights and rental car journeys, at times after sunset or before sunrise to capture photos, I seldom think about it! One stands out where I drove for 1.5 hours in the dark one morning, not another car in sight, blasting my favorite music on the radio looking forward to seeing the sunrise at a particular spot...it still stands out as one of my greatest trips!
That being said, yes...I share my Google Map location with my husband and always research before going ANYWHERE!
Pack Light: Being able to manage your own luggage easily makes you more mobile and less distracted (also saves fees and time when flying). I have another girlfriend who I can’t quite convince of this...yet...
The world is vast, beautiful, and waiting for you. Whether it’s a quiet coastal town or a bustling metropolis, the most important destination you’ll reach is a deeper understanding of your own spirit.